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Learn three things about transgender dating

1.Take a leading role in the conversation

Maybe you’ve had an incredible conversation online with someone you’ve decided to meet, and then they barely say a word. It’s always awkward to meet new people, especially when it comes to dating transgender people online, which is more suitable for shy people in social situations. So you might do a favor if you’re just leading the conversation (if you don’t know, take this tutorial), or just dealing with awkward first trans dating, look at any second trans date you want to be more awkward with. Remember, it usually takes 3 encounters to really know you and someone else to click.

2.At least stay on dates for a while

When you finally meet someone, be as polite as possible, even if they don’t look like you think they will. I did show up on trans dates, and it wasn’t until I got there that I realized the guy was weeks away from having a baby. I didn’t leave, I didn’t “sneak into the bathroom,” but I stayed and talked for about an hour, not because I was a saint, but because I couldn’t imagine someone telling me I was going to meet them and never showing up again. Most importantly, you’ll never get worse for knowing someone. Even if the transgender date sucks, you’ll meet someone you might never meet and your life will be so much richer.

3.Learn to accept rejection

This seems like common sense. Because I’ve never been as embarrassed as I was when I heard a transgender woman on a date tell a horror story about another man she met online. In fact, most of it is the result of rejection. While the theory behind matchmaking is that you’re both interested in each other, that doesn’t mean you’re halfway through your trans date. If a girl says “no” when you ask her out, take it easy and move on. Unfortunately, many men don’t. You can find screenshots of a lot of transgender women talking to a man online, and when she says she’s not interested, he’ll pop out every swear word you can call a trans single woman in the next text.

This advice also applies to those who don’t respond at all. If you try to start a conversation and it doesn’t pay off, don’t leave another 20 comments or take it personally. Maybe they don’t check often, remove apps from their phones, or just aren’t interested. That’s life. Be thankful for what happens to strangers online, not to people you meet in bars. The problem is that talking to people digitally is really likely to dehumanize them. We forget that the other person is just like us, we say something that we will never say in person, good or bad, so we discard the common unwritten rules of social interaction. That’s why it’s best to see each other when they’re comfortable so you can get to know each other.